Going through a quarter-life crises?
You are never alone in this. Jakob Sokol, founder of Sensophy has openly written about his struggles too.
You, he, and most of us will always have that phase of our life when we start to feel an inexorable kind of restlessness – seeking for meaning, seeking for something beyond the daily grind of things.
Are you feeling unhappy these days trying to figure out what you really want to do in your life?
Jakob Sokol stumbled upon this inspiring quote that has changed his life somehow:
“I’d always believed that a life of quality, enjoyment, and wisdom were my human birthright and would be automatically bestowed upon me as time passed. I never suspected that I would have to learn how to live — that there were specific disciplines and ways of seeing the world I had to master before I could awaken to a simple, happy, uncomplicated life.”
From this inspiration and the passion to find out what is really meant for him to experience, he decided to quit his job, minimize his expenses and went to Hawaii to live a new different kind of life.
From there, he has discovered that there are people like him too – wild seekers of thrill and meaning. After years of his personal journey, he was able to feel the enlightenment through time.
And just in time for his own illumination, he was able to recall the wonderful happiness study by Sonja Lyubomirsky sharing these 12 things happy people do differently:
1. Saying “thank you”
Expressing gratitude even for the smallest things gives you a deeper sense of happiness. Being happy starts from the little things that matter.
If you are grateful for every bit of joy, every bit of sunshine, every bit of random acts of kindness from others, there is nothing to stop you from feeling good.
2. Believing “I can do it”
Happy people are optimistic people. They always imagine the rainbow amid the thick dark clouds. Believing you can do it even when the situation is not favorable helps you have an easy time.
It is not all about being bitter and suffering in silence, it is about having this faith that whatever happens, something good is about to be revealed.
3. Listening to their own beat
Happy people do not compare themselves to others. They do not over-think just to feel insecure and inadequate. They are confident that they have something great to offer.
They find comfort in knowing that they have unique qualities that can lead them to their real purpose.
4. Cultivating kindness
Random acts of kindness and bigger steps of compassion have tremendous effects on a person’s serotonin levels. Serotonin is the happy hormone.
When doing acts of kindness, there is a natural flow of joy and warmth in a person’s heart.
Do you believe in the power kindness? Happy people do.
When you are kind, you are not only making others happy but you too reap the fruits of shared joy
5. Nurturing deeper relationships
Studies have shown that people who feel less alone have longer lives.
This simply means that happy people are those who make sure that they invest some time and energy in sharing moments with others.
It is important to have some close friends and a solid relationship with your family.
6. Coping whatever happens
You may find yourself in crap arena but this must not be the stop of it all for you. Happy people know how to cope and they develop means to cope one failure after the other.
7. Forgiving before forgetting
Negative emotions like hatred and grudges are not good for your well-being. Happy people let the feelings go by being in the moment and accepting that some things just fall apart.
Having conflicts can’t be avoided but you can always take the door that gives peace in your heart.
8. Going with the flow
As the beautiful movie, The Waking Life puts is, “the current wow is happening now”. Those who are living in the present reap so much joy in what they are doing.
Being engrossed with their current task enables them to savor each moment with enthusiasm, fulfillment, and bliss.
9. Slowing down to savor
In a busy world of commitments and deadlines, happy people slow down and savor.
Whether it’s a refreshing mint tea in the morning or the sight of stars at night, not being in a hurry for the next days or the next hours is just so wonderful.
It’s in the little moments when we find the reasons why life can be so enjoyable.
10. Acting on goals
Perhaps, other people may think that some people are just too happy to have goals. This is a misconception.
Happy people have some sort of dreams turned into goals (short term or long term).
Acting on goals give you that sense of responsibility and a driving force to get you going.
11. Strengthening spirituality
There is an endless source of awe, beauty, and magic.
As you submit yourself to a higher power above you, it is a great move to humble down and to strengthen your connection to everything around you.
As you surrender your heart to the belief that you are not the master of it all, you become more vulnerable and open to magic.
12. Taking care of the body
Did you know that exercise and good eating can make you happy too?
Too much sitting, not getting enough sunshine and eating junk add up in reasons to feel depressed. Regular exercise has been proven to help your mental and emotional health, too.
So there you go, these are the 12 things happy people do differently.
If you have noticed similarities in your life right now, nurture these habits.
If you feel there is a need for change, go for it. It is indeed a universal dream to be happy. It is happiness that bind us all together.